Today, Jezebel had a short little snippet of Bazaar's interview with Taylor Swift in which she admits that she likes to be in a passive role in romantic relationships. She said, " If I feel too much like I'm wearing the pants, I start to feel uncomfortable and then we break up." In this particular article, Jezebel doesn't go after her too hard about this. But they, and other feminist writers, have in the past. Taylor Swift wears lots of dresses, sings sappy love songs and she likes to be submissive. Cue feminist meltdown.
And you know what? I think it's bullshit. Feminism is about getting to be whoever you damn well please regardless of gender. If someone was telling her she had to be soft and submissive because she has a vagina, I'd be mad. But how is it any less oppressive to tell her she isn't allowed to be those things because she's a woman? I'm not claiming T-Swift is a feminist icon or anything. I have problems with some of her lyrics. BUT she gets to be who wants to be. If she wants her boyfriend to be more dominant in her relationships, that is her business. As long as she doesn't go around demanding that all women be like her just because they are women, it's fine. So lay off her for crying out loud.
